The Shadow Side of Life

Back in 2016, I was having a conversation with one of my fellow intuitive friends and we were commenting on how there seemed to be an unseen battle taking place between good and evil in the world; and we were both feeling it build. This of course is nothing new, but there does seem to be times when it’s more palpable than others.

This may seem like an odd thing for a spiritual person to say, but darkness does have its place. If there were only good, positive, loving things in the world, we would never learn, expand and grow. We actually need these polarities, both on a global scale, as well as individually in our lives. Those tragic events, horrible people and dark injustices teach us the most about our stamina, tenacity, and the true power that we possess within our souls. It doesn’t matter if we are a Buddhist monk, or a gang member, we all have dark and light sides to our personalities. No one is all good or all evil.

When I used to fight with my ex, he would often say things in the midst of the argument like, “You don’t sound very spiritual now!” I would calmly bite my tongue, thinking to myself, “Be thankful for my spirituality Mister, it’s the only reason I have not put a pillow over your face while you sleep!” (Well, that and the fact that I don’t look good in orange!) Clearly we were not well suited, but my point is, that even for those of us who are working toward inner growth and spiritual evolution, we still have a shadow side to contend with. Anyone who pretends that they are totally evolved to a place of “unicorns and fairies” at all times, is simply pretending. As humans, we still have egos and past traumas that subconsciously make us who we are; flawed and imperfect beings.

The trick is not to suppress our dark sides, but to learn how these work and to properly deal with them, much like the way a parent would help to discipline a child that they love, but who is acting out. As spiritual beings (Which we are first and foremost, since we are souls having a human experience.) we have the skill set to be the passive observer in our lives, to see how we may be wired to react, and then come from a place of love and compassion, rather than fear and hate.

Not to say that every person is here at this time to spiritually evolve! Some people have incarnated now, to simply serve as examples of what we are not to be, or to be that dark driving force that helps to teach the rest of us by embracing their dark sides. It took me years to understand that not everyone is on the earth at this time to spiritually evolve, and that is OK. Keep this in mind when we see social injustices, pain and suffering. We seem to have this belief system where we feel life is supposed to be fair, but if it was, how would we learn?

Some of us will listen to the call of “the angels of our higher nature,” and some of us will not. It is not ours to judge, because we do not know what role each of us has asked to play at this point in the world’s spiritual evolution. There isn’t a spiritual person that I know, who hasn’t gotten a little too cosy to their shadow side, but the difference is, having the ability to be conscious of what is happening, and understanding that our behaviors are a choice. These are conscious choices we will make again and again until the day we take our last breath.

So instead of raising our fists and getting angry about these dark forces in our lives, we should really be grateful for them. As painful as they may be; they shape us, causing us to be better versions of ourselves.


  1. pamela dresser on August 17, 2021 at 1:53 pm

    Beautiful and true. Thank you! Love you, Susan!

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 3:44 pm


  2. Lavinia on August 17, 2021 at 1:54 pm

    Well said Susan! ⭐ It is only in the tension between darkness and light in which we are forced to see who we really are, rather than who we project to be. Very humbling

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 3:44 pm

      Exactly! 😇🦄👻🙏😘

  3. Andrea on August 17, 2021 at 2:19 pm

    A valuable perspective on those dark sides and beings that often leave us wondering if life is simply one big problem. From Afghanistan to Haiti to the a-holes in our own backyards who make too much noise or carelessly toss trash in our streets, the dark side seems to overwhelm our far better natures, our intuitively loving aspects. Anyway…thank you so much Susan for your gift and wisdom.

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 3:45 pm

      My pleasure! XO 😇🦄👻🙏

  4. Heather Murray on August 17, 2021 at 2:28 pm

    Great reminder. Thank you! XoX

  5. Steve on August 17, 2021 at 3:12 pm

    Been asking why all the crp here and feeling guilty for the anger. Didn’t expect to get an answer in an email lol. Thank-you.

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 3:46 pm

      Coincidence is God’s way of remaining Anonymous. 🙏👻🦄

  6. Cathy Berman on August 17, 2021 at 3:15 pm

    Thank you Susan. This is so appropriate – especially during these times. I appreciate your honesty with respect to your ex-husband. I think those of us with exes can whole heartedly relate.
    You don’t present a facade as being an all enlightened being, and living in some la la land of spirituality.
    You are truly very gifted, and part of your gift is sharing your vulnerability.

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 3:47 pm

      Thank you for the kind words! XO

  7. Jaspreet Takhar on August 17, 2021 at 5:48 pm

    It’s always nice to know you’re not the only one who struggles with these types of issues. Thank you so much for sharing and reminding us, it’s okay to be human 🤪☺️

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 5:54 pm

      We are most certainly ALL in the same boat! XO

  8. Linda Peet on August 17, 2021 at 5:59 pm

    HI Susan: Great timing for me on this one. The most difficult thing for me is having an intellectual concept of “oneness,” while having this other part of me that says’ “Me? One with that? with the Taliban ” But the ego’s job is to keep us believing in separation, and in my case, a fine job it does! Yet we are really all one pulsating organism.

    It helps me to focus on the fact that I, too, in past lives, in the course of my evolution as a soul, have in all likelihood been a murderer, a rapist, a tyrannical soul, a force for repression, etc…..if I had not already been these things, how could I understand how damaging they are? It is as you say, how we learn and develop as souls.
    So these people are where I once was, and are going to who I have become. Just as I am moving to who you are, (Oh gees I hope so)……

    God bless you for what you have by example shown me….to bring others up with us as we grow. To benefit others through our gifts, and lift them up.

    When I meditate I say (when I remember–I am 73, after all) Something to the effect of: “May this meditation bring others to a place of calm and love.” Or when pulling a card “May this information lift others up along with me.”

    You showed me this path. Thank you so much.

    • Susan Schueler on August 17, 2021 at 6:54 pm

      I LOVE that form of a meditation! BRILLIANT and PLEASE keep doing it. XO