Posts Tagged ‘self care’
When Receiving is Really Giving
“Interdependence is and ought to be as much the ideal of man as self sufficiency.” Mahatma Gandhi I was what people now refer to as a “free range child,” which is a pleasant way of saying that no one had any idea where I was for large portions of the day. I was the opposite…
Read MoreI’m Not A Barbie Doll!
For much of my marriage, I occasionally suspected my husband had wanted a Barbie doll and was mildly disappointed to discover that his wife came with opinions, comfortable shoes and absolutely no interest in being dressed for someone else’s approval. He placed a great deal of emphasis on my appearance. He liked my hair a…
Read MoreThe Best of Both Worlds: Finding Home in Two Places
After my niece was tragically killed in 2011, I started going home to Western New York more frequently to be with my family. It started with three weeks at a time and renting summer cottages, then evolved by 2021 into staying for several months as my mother’s dementia got worse. I became an expert at…
Read MoreThe Stories We Mistake for Truth
I recently heard a medium on television confidently state that 80% of the population dreams in black and white. The comment immediately caught my attention, not because I considered it impossible, but because it seemed inconsistent with my own experience and with the thousands of conversations I have had over the years with clients, students,…
Read MoreThe Quiet Strength of Grieving People
There are certain readings that will stay with me forever. Not because they were dramatic or filled with grand predictions, but because I was sitting with someone whose life had been permanently altered by loss, and yet somehow they were still standing. I’ve recently read for a few parents who have lost sons in their…
Read MoreThe Lost Art of Deep Conversations
I’m not good with small talk and have often been told I am “too intense” because of this. If I am having a conversation with someone, within minutes we will be discussing topics like childhood traumas, crop circles, relationship patterns, aging parents, or death and dying. I simply am only wired for deep and meaningful…
Read MoreWhy Emotionally Unavailable People Feel So Magnetic
Intense chemistry in a relationship is not always a sign of compatibility, and like many before me, I have learned this the hard way. Sometimes what we actually experience is an activation because something unresolved inside of us gets stirred awake by a person who feels emotionally difficult to fully reach. Then, because the feelings…
Read MoreI’m Done Shrinking to Make Other People Comfortable
Most women are not struggling because they don’t know who they are. They are struggling because they have been taught to hide themselves to make others more comfortable. As women we quickly learn… *anger is viewed as ugly *desire is considered dangerous *raising our voices is considered intrusive *(and my favorite) firm boundaries equal…
Read MoreWhy People Seek Psychic Readings When Nothing Else Is Working
Most people do not seek out a psychic reading because they are merely curious or casually interested. They come because something in their life has become stuck, whether that is a recurring relationship pattern, an exhausting decision loop, a career crossroads, or an emotional impasse that logic alone has failed to resolve. By the time…
Read MoreFeeling Anxious and Don’t Know Why?
If you have ever woken up with a tight chest, racing thoughts, or a vague sense of dread without anything obvious being wrong, you are not imagining it. It may come as news to you, but anxiety does not always come from personal circumstances. Sometimes it comes from how sensitive nervous systems interact with larger…
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