The Joy and Pain of the Holidays

Like many of us, I have a love/hate relationship with the holidays. I digitized all of my photos last year, so every morning as I sit in my meditation chair, I see the memories of my life fade in and fade out of my new computer photo frame. The bittersweet memories often cause me to…

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Painful Anniversaries

There are times in our lives that are so painful and life altering that we actually label them in our mind as, “before ____________ happened” and “after _____________ happened.”  The loss and grief is so intense, we intrinsically understand we will never be the same. Whether the death of a loved one, a tragic world…

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A Time For Everything Under Heaven

I recall taking a class at my undergraduate alma mater, Niagara University, called Life, Death and Rebirth. Interestingly enough, it was taught by a Vincentian Priest, and a Ph D who ran our Theater Department. This may seem like an unlikely pair, but for the course it actually made perfect sense. Although this class explained…

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Are You Grateful for Who You Have Become?

The holidays can be a time for reflection, when we take the time to slow ourselves down, even for just a minute, before the rush begins. Consider for a moment, where we were last year at this time. What our worries centered around. What relationships were most prominent in our lives. The challenges that we…

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Accepting All That Life Sends Us

I recently had a client reach out to me asking, “Am I going to start feeling joy and contentment in my life? With all the bad things that have been happening, I don’t know how much more of this anxiety I can take.” My heart went out to him because this is something everyone of…

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Leader of the Pack

Here I sit in my meditation chair, our morning ritual, one dog on my left hip, one dog to my right, the cat gracefully balanced on the arm of the chair with us, and the newest addition to my family, curled tightly in a ball on her dog bed next to us.  Honestly, this is…

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Is the Elephant in the Room Sitting on Your Lap?

My dad lost his leg from a motorcycle accident when he was 19 and my mother lost her toe from lawn mower incident when she was in her 30’s. It was a running joke in my family, that together, my parents had 14 toes. Having spent a lot of time with my dad at the…

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What are our Loved Ones Doing in the Afterlife

My first exposure to death was when my 59 year old grandfather unexpectedly passed when I was 5. I still recall looking at his cold body lying in the coffin at the wake. I remember that same week, sitting on the kitchen floor crying while my mom worked in the kitchen; it finally occurred to…

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Time is Promised to No One

Because of the work I do and its mobility, I have been blessed to be able to spend a few months each year with my 83 year old mother over past few years.  Believe me when I tell you, she wasn’t always this easygoing sweet old woman.  There was a time she could lose her…

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Dealing with Grief Over the Holidays

Grief can come in many forms over the Christmas Season.  Whether the loss of a loved one through death, a failed marriage, a move, or a family dispute; as humans, when we experience loss, we grieve.  Never is this felt stronger than during the holidays when we recall more joyous times with those whom we…

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