How to Advance as an Intuitive

Many people signed my yearbooks throughout my years at school, but the one comment that I have never forgotten, came from a much loved choral director.  After 4 years of having many classes with her, she knew me well and wrote, “Susan, be your own best friend.”  A simple, yet powerful statement, for, how many of us are truly our “own best friend”?   Sadly, more often than not, we are our biggest enemies.

As a teacher myself, I soon learned it was not a lack of ability that kept most from advancing, but rather a belief in self.  The same is true as I now teach budding psychics, mediums, healers and light workers as they step into their abilities.  Those who advance the quickest with their intuitive skills, building the strongest foundations, are those who have spent years learning to believe, trust, respect, and love themselves.  For nothing, and I mean nothing, will get in the way of spiritual development more than lack of self love.

How do we learn to love ourselves, if we never learn about our souls or our spirit?  If we believe that our human self, is our only self?  If we only come from a place of the logical mind, things like unconditional love will never be possible.  True forgiveness of self and others can not be achieved, for this comes from the soul.  

How often do we give our power away to others.  People who do not deserve our love or attention, but still, because of our own lack of love, we attempt desperately to get them to love us by twisting ourselves into the shape they most desire us to be.  In reality, if someone genuinely loves us, they will accept us as we are, including all of our imperfections.  

For anyone wishing to advance as a healer, psychic, medium or light worker, it is not only imperative that we love self and have a relationship with both the soul and spirit, but to also live our truth.  This means being true to the words that leave our mouth and the way we are living our life.  Yes, we are human and won’t always hit the mark, but this should be the goal.  When we love ourselves enough to come from a place of integrity, (whether that means returning our shopping carts, leaving a note on a car we may have hit, being true to our loved ones, or not participating with others when they gossip) we are remembering who we are.  A beautiful spiritual being that is currently in our human form to learn and grow, and most importantly, help others.   

Live a life of truth, integrity, and self respect, and love of self will follow.  Stop compromising yourself; for in reality, you are all you have, and of course, be your own best friend!


  1. G. on October 16, 2020 at 6:52 am

    Asking for a friend:
    “What if you have said qualities, boundaries, and goals(intentionally internal) yet still participate in habitual patterns of detachment, isolation, distrust, and ubiquitousness of being used/taken advantage of by those who we “give away our power to” on a deep soul level which one might think is their truth to do so?
    Which leads to states of depression and self destructive behavior.
    We have to help ourselves before helping others but one may be exhausted from helping others and not see any reasonable return on the investment.
    Even though it may actually be their truth in that time and space.
    In order to grow one would have to accept the process in an almost ‘Groundhog Day’ cyclical pattern that is a constructive then destructive journey to be repeated.
    How would my friend get off that;
    “Sorry Go Round”-Alan Watts,
    And move forward into a linear path instead of a old familiar cyclical repetition?

    • Susan Schueler on October 16, 2020 at 10:30 am

      Self destructive behaviors are never “our truth” but rather the way that our humans and our egos deal with past issues and traumas that are unresolved. You may want to have your friend reread this article again, since it answers your questions. It ALL begins with self love and knowing your self worth, as well as learning that you are more than your physical body. Because, when we deal with depression, there is a disconnect from our soul, and we are only relating to our ego, feeling that voice we hear in our head, is truly who we are. (And it is NOT.) We are NOT victims, unless we willing accept that role, so what I would suggest your friend to do, is to spend time in quiet reflective mediation (you can find little things on YouTube for free) where they allow themselves to connect into their soul, so they are able to differentiate the ego from the soul, because now it doesn’t sound like they are having an easy time doing that. I would also suggest going back and reading an earlier blog of mine “The Selflessness of Selfishness.” Namaste, Susan

      • G. on October 16, 2020 at 9:43 pm

        Thank you, Susan.
        “The Truth” being repeatedly giving away our power to others.
        The self destructive behavior is a misplaced catharsis before beginning the cycle again.

        you always seem to hit it when one needs to hear it.
        Amazing, you are.
        Thank you

  2. Cheryl Meegan on October 16, 2020 at 9:57 am

    Susan I really love reading your inspirational messages. They have real meaning and make me take a step back and think about things especially during these trying times.

    • Susan Schueler on October 16, 2020 at 10:32 am

      Truly my pleasure! XXOO

  3. Jehan on October 16, 2020 at 10:13 am

    This was beautiful— thank you.
    Miss you. xx

    • Susan Schueler on October 16, 2020 at 10:32 am


  4. Candi Parks Gershuni on October 17, 2020 at 12:50 am

    Thank you so much, Susan! I really needed to read your message today. I struggle with self-love and self acceptance. Often I’m my own worst enemy. Thanks for the reminder! xoxo